10 Things to Remember while planning your wedding

A great day ...so many things to think about and to do, and less time to do it all. A site for the ceremony, someone to perform it, music, reception halls, flowers...it never seems to end. What do you really need to remember? What can you not forget?A perfect wedding is a dream of everyone.. but if it isn't, will anyone except for you know the difference? I am not going to go into the little details that you may or may not want to think about when planning your wedding. I am going to cover pretty basic things, but give some advice and tips based on my own experiences with weddings.
1. What Is The Best Time of Wdding: . When do you want your wedding? Do you want a summer wedding? A spring wedding? This is the most important thing to think about. After you have decided around what time of year you want your wedding, you have a lot of other things to think about. A lot of reception sites can be booked solid for two years before they have an opening. This is especially true if you want a summer wedding. June through August is wedding season. Everything is harder to book for a summer wedding, and usually costs more. If you are cutting costs, think about maybe a fall or winter wedding instead. Weekends present the same issue. A wedding on a Saturday usually ends up costing more than a Friday wedding. Many places offer discounts for Friday weddings over Saturday weddings. If you are dead set on a summer wedding, make sure you have enough time to get everything done that you need to do, and that you have options available to you. Is there one place you really want to have the ceremony? Call and see what is available. You may end up having to wait a year or more to get that desired location. You have so many things to book, and they all have to fall on the same day. That means a lot of phone calls and a lot of rearranging of schedules. You are going to need a lot of time to get all of this done! You have to book an officiant, a ceremony site, a reception site, potentially a caterer, photographer, videographer, and a DJ or band, and they all have to have the same day available. That takes a lot of work, and a lot of time. Give yourself plenty of time to do all this, while still allowing for some time that isn't wrapped around wedding plans. Wedding planning burnout does happen! I know firsthand! I only had seven months to plan my wedding, and with doing everything myself, it was all I ever thought about. I had dreams and nightmares about wedding cakes, flower girls, you name it!
2. The most suitable Wedding Dress for you: Everything starts with the dress. The moment that ring is on your finger, you start to picture that perfect wedding dress. Strapless? A train? Bead-work? Simple and elegant, or bold and daring? Take your time. There are thousands upon thousands of dresses out there, and you are only one person. Browse catalogues, tear the pages out with the dresses you like the best. Try on dress after dress after dress. Take pictures, if they let you (A lot of places won't let you take pictures!!! As terrible as that sounds, it's true!) Bring someone with you while you shop for a dress. Make sure it's someone you trust, someone you know will be honest, and someone who doesn't mind hours of boredom as you go through the difficult maneuvers of trying on all those dresses. Pick something you love, but also remember, you will be in that dress for hours!!! Make sure you are comfortable and you can breath. While it may make an amusing YouTube video, A lot of dresses offer little touches of color that give it a personality all its own. . Fabric stores offer a wide variety of wedding dress patterns, special occasion fabric, lace, and everything you would need to make a one of a kind wedding dress, and it costs a lot less!!!
3. Seating for the guests:This may not end up being a big issue, but on several occasions, I have known it to be a HUGE issue. Is there enough room for everyone? That quaint, little, romantic wedding chapel may be just the perfect setting for your wedding, but will it hold everyone you want to invite? Is it fair to tell some of your family that they can't come to the ceremony because there just isn't enough room? Do you feel comfortable doing it? That's up to you. It is something you have to think about . Did an aunt or a good friend do something special to help with your wedding? Maybe they should be rewarded with a seat closer to the head table. Fill in those gaps at tables with those people you know will be attending solo. When making a seating chart, draw up a basic floor plan of the reception hall, placing the tables where they will be going, and label the tables with a number system. Instead of writing everyone's name right on the floor plan, write them on little pieces of paper and arrange them around the tables. That way, you can move people from table to table, if you decide to make changes, or someone calls last minute and says they aren't going to make it. It is much easier than erasing names, and writing them in again.
4. The Wedding Flowers Arrangements:What is a wedding without flowers? Whether you go for simple and elegant, or you prefer a garden of flowers at your wedding, flowers are important. Choosing a florist can be difficult. Talk to friends and family. Talk to people you know that have gotten married recently. They can give you insight into their experience. Did they like the florist they chose? Did they offer a discount or special prices on seasonal flowers? Flowers are expensive! It seems like the price automatically gets raised when you tell them that the flowers are for a wedding or a funeral. Find a florist that will deliver the flowers the day of the ceremony, that way the flowers are as fresh as possible. Check references. Like I said, talk to people you know. Just because a florist is offering you a bargain, doesn't always mean that it ends up being a bargain in the end. I have heard of florists making substitutions on the flowers, even after a specific order was placed. Cheaper flowers for the same rate as the more expensive ones that were originally chosen. If you want pink roses, make sure you are going to get pink roses. My mother and I ended up doing the wedding flowers ourselves. We did the bouquets, the vases for the church, and everything. We practically bought out the flower stands at the local grocery stores, farmer's markets, and such. We spent maybe $100 on flowers. We used all fresh flowers. We used silk flowers for the toss bouquet, and for the scattering petals for the flower girl. I got the flowers I wanted, and saved a fortune. Granted, it was a lot of work, but I enjoyed it. It was a lot of fun. For a simple, elegant bridal bouquet, you could end up spending very little money and have a very professional result.
5. The Wedding Party:Do you have five sisters/brothers that all expect to be in your wedding? Do you have a bunch of 'best friends' that assume they are going to be your best man/maid of honor? Deciding who makes the cut can be difficult. Don't let the feelings of others influence your decision, after all, it is YOUR wedding, not theirs. Did your sister recently get married, and you weren't even in the wedding party? Maybe you two aren't as close with each other than one of your other sisters or your best friend. You may want to have six bridesmaids just to keep everyone happy, but do you and the groom have six men you can call on to fill the groomsmen roles? There are expenses associated with being a bridesmaid/groomsman. Can your brother afford that tux rental? Can your BFF shell out the money for that bridesmaid dress? You may want them in your wedding, but if they can't afford it, that leaves you with two options; either you help them with the cost of everything or you ask someone else. When selecting bridesmaid dresses, think about the people you are going to have in your wedding party. Pick dresses that are similar in style to your dress. Find dresses that offer different looks in the same style, to accommodate each person's tastes and body types. You may want everyone in strapless dresses, but your sister may not feel comfortable wearing a strapless gown. The dresses should all be the same color, and same basic style, but offer choices. The tuxes are an easier task. Select simple tuxes or suits with colors that compliment the color scheme of the wedding. Basic black, white or dark grey are the best options for the tux color, and the ties, vests and such should be in one of the colors of the wedding. Make sure that the groom stands out from the groomsmen. This can be done with either a different color of tux, or different color of tie or vest. For example, you could have the groomsmen in grey tuxes with a colored vest and tie, while the groom is in black with the same color of vest and tie. Just make sure the groom isn't mistaken for the best man.
6. Wedding Cost and your budget:Everything in a wedding costs money! EVERYTHING!! The only thing that doesn't cost money is the love you share with the person you are marrying. If the wedding industry could find a way to charge you for that, I am sure they would. Generally, it is customary for the parents of the bride to pay for a majority of the wedding, while the family of the groom pays for the rehearsal dinner and the alcohol or flowers. That all depends on traditions. There are different traditions for different religions and cultures. These days, those 'rules' are a little looser. Many couples pay for their own weddings, or the bride's family or groom's family foots the entire bill. This is the part where math is involved! . Find out what everyone is able to contribute financially. You may want that grand wedding, with a reception at that really fancy reception hall, but it just might not be in the budget, or maybe you need to take some time to save up a little more of the green stuff. Save the loans for buying that first house! Plan ahead! Buy those things that aren't gonna go bad way ahead of time. Thank you cards, little boxes or bags for favors, and place cards can be bought early on and stashed away. Buying things over time can ease some of the financial burden. Doing things on your own can help cut costs, as well. I got lucky! My mom is a great seamstress, so we worked together and made all the dresses for the wedding, we made the cake (that was an interesting experience! I have learned that I hate fondant!), I bought a kit and printed my own invitations, did the flowers, and made all the favors myself. There are a lot of books on do-it-yourself weddings. Get crafty! It will save a ton of cash, and give you a wedding that is one-of-a-kind, personal and special!
7. The Wedding Gifts: Weddings are expensive! What do you get them? This all depends. Gifts need to be nice, but not overly expensive, unless you can afford it. I had a lot of trouble with this. I had no idea what to get anyone. I decided on the customary jewelry for my bridesmaids and flower girl. I got my two bridesmaids matching earring and necklace sets. My flower girl got a necklace that matched the bridesmaids. I also chose to include a personal gift for each of them. I made each of them something special. This can be a nice touch. It can be anything, a lovely picture frame, a small jewelry box, or anything personal that you know they would like. I let my fiance handle the groomsmen and ring bearer gifts. He chose to go with engraved flasks and a gift certificate to their favorite restaurant for the groomsmen. I made a special teddy bear bank for the ring bearer, and we also gave him a gift card to a toy store. Whatever you decide to give as wedding party gifts, make sure they reflect who each person really is. Don't give a non-drinker a flask. Instead, maybe a coffee cup, or personalized golf balls, or golf tees. If they are in your wedding party, one can assume you know them pretty well. It shouldn't be too hard to find something special that really says thank you in the best way.
8. The best Music 4 wedding day:Like flowers, a wedding just wouldn't be right without music. From the start of the ceremony to the last dance of the night, music fills the air all throughout the day. Don't stress over it too much,just think or take an advice what should be 'perfect' songs for your wedding ceremony. If you know of a song that you particularly love, use that! Many churches provide organists for the ceremony. Even if you aren't getting married in a church, make an appointment to meet with the organist from your church. They can help you by offering a variety of often used wedding music for you to choose from. It is a lot easier than spending hours on the Internet, listening to piece after piece of classical music, until all you hear in your sleep is Bach and Beethoven. It can make your search that much smoother . 9. TheWedding Reception ; presents another musical challange. What to play? Well, there are the basics that need to be covered; the much anticipated 'first dance', the father-daughter/mother-son dance, the wedding party dance, and so on. If you and your fiance have a song, go with that. Even if the song is something silly, non-traditional first dance music...so what??? Your wedding is about you, not about what everyone expects you to do. The rest of the music should be a good mix of fun, upbeat party songs, a few romantic slow songs, and whatever you really want to hear. If you MUST hear Ice, Ice Baby at your wedding, then add it to the playlist. Most DJ's will provide you with some form of paperwork to fill out, so that all the music you want played will be played. Think about your guests. If there will be children there, or people who are easily offended, maybe you should avoid that 2LiveCrew song that you love so much. Work with your DJ or band to create a playlist for the evening. Most DJ's worth their salt will have done a number of weddings, and will know what they are doing, and will know how to read a crowd. If you tell the DJ that you love country, but hate rap, he will be sure to follow in line with your tastes.
10. Rest Before and after wedding day: Weddings are exhausting! During the whole process of planning your wedding, make sure to take some time for yourself, and make sure you get plenty of rest! Not only will you enjoy your wedding that much more, you will look all the better for having taken good care of yourself. If wedding this, and wedding that is driving you nuts, take the day off. Go do something fun and relaxing. Cool off a bit. Go get that massage you have been wanting so badly, and get some of those wedding-induced stress knots out of your muscles. Spend some time with your friends or family, and DO NOT talk wedding stuff. This goes along with the issue of time. If you give yourself enough time to plan your wedding, you will have the opportunity to take some time off from all the planning. I was up for the entire two days before my wedding. I looked like hell (in my own opinion), and after it was all over, I fell asleep the second I got to the hotel room. It was a sad wedding night, to say the least. Weddings are stressful. If you take care of yourself, get plenty of rest, and take time away from all the wedding planning, it will be easier to deal with it all. Take a break, get your head out of the wedding catalogues and magazines, crawl out from under that pile of satin and lace, and do something else. Go see a movie in the middle of the day with a friend you haven't talked to since all the craziness started. Spend the day in the bathtub with a steamy romance novel. Go shoot hoops with your best buddies. Catch a football game at a local sports bar. RELAX!!!